The person you are looking for to make you happy, is yourself.
We are led to believe that happiness comes from the outside world. Having nice things, achieving goals, winning recognition, feeling valued, repected and loved. And undoubtedly these things all play a part and can add or subtract massively from how much contentment we feel, but they in themselves are not the be all and end all!
When we are surrounded by action, excitement and drama its easy to get distracted and caught up in a way that sees us soar from the highs to the lows of emotion. This is the way of the world and the play of form around us, but regardless of what is happening, there is a way we can still find happiness.
The observer inside all of us, that untouchable and indescribable prescence, is never swayed by the events of the world. So long as we identify with the ego mind, we will find ourselves pulled around by the currents of life, trying to be right and to shape the world in ways that fit with our expectations of what should be. But change is the only certainty in life, so instead of trying to force the outside world to play to our song, how about we accept things as they are and change our own expectations of the song to accommodate the world?
This may be easier said than done, but ask yourself this question:
In this moment right now, isn't everything OK?
And isn't it only when we reflect on the past that we regret and sadden, and project onto the future that we fear and get anxious?
This moment is a present, the gift of the eternal now, full of potential and wonder and the simple pleasures of just being alive. If you can give yourself to this moment fully, not wishing for it to be different than it is but accepting it as exactly as it is supposed to be, where is the struggle and the suffering?
When events occur, instead of asking 'Why me?' can we ask 'What is this offering to teach me? What can I learn from this?' And in this way we can take control of our own lives and use them as the stepping stones to greater self-knowledge, self-awareness and self-love.
If we are able to view life in this way, we can relinquish the need for things to be a certain way to make us happy, and just be happy anyway! Happiness is, after all, an emotion we choose to embody. And if we could all live like this, then what a world we could create together!
I encourage you to try this for yourself. Try to spend some time each day in this present moment, not reflecting on the past or projecting into the future. Just now. And see if it isn't always just the right place for you to be!
And who is always there with you? It is yourself!
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